When being in a long-term relationship, having disagreements, arguments, or fights with your partner is inevitable. If the clashes become a pattern, often couples hesitate to seek counseling because of the negative stigma attached to it. Seeing a therapist does not mean your relationship is over or failing; sometimes, you need an outside perspective to help resolve issues and communicate more efficiently. Below are a few signs you should consider starting couples counseling. 

You Are Not Communicating Well: Have you noticed that conversations between you and your partner typically lead to arguments or fights? Communication is critical to a healthy relationship, and if you and your partner do not know how to change your automatic ways of communicating, it can cause a significant strain on your relationship. A couple’s therapist can teach communication techniques to help you and your partner recover from disagreements and communicate more effectively.

Lack of Trust: If trust is broken, it can be very hard to get back. Lying and keeping secrets is very corrosive. Couples counseling will help you and your partner repair trust.

No Intimacy: While the honeymoon phase of a relationship doesn’t last forever, keeping the spark alive in your relationship is essential. If you are struggling to be intimate with your partner, it may be time to schedule an appointment for couples counseling. A therapist will have some helpful suggestions to help get your intimacy back.

Having the Same Argument: If you find that you and your partner keep having the same argument repeatedly, it may be time to seek help. Having disagreements with your partner from time to time is normal, but if you do not understand each other’s perspective, you may not be able to move past the argument.